One of my family's favorite parts of attending church each week is a tradition called "Joys and Concerns". In this moment, people are invited to the front of the sanctuary to light a candle of joy or concern, and briefly share some words with the community. In these moments, we feel connected to each other as we hear about love and loss, the trials and tribulations of life, and the everyday moments which make life what it is.
Some years ago, we took that tradition home. Every now and again, we will sit down as a family, around a small tray of candles. I will light the large pillar in the center, and there are smaller tea-lights around the tray. After a brief moment of silence, we take turns lighting a candle, and sharing with each other the things we are feeling really good about, and the things that we are worrying about as well. We have this great opportunity to really be able to share how we are feeling, and each person has the chance to be genuinely heard. That is not always the case during our day to day activities. My kids have shared some feelings that I wonder if I would have been able to key into had we not shared that time together.
Lighting our own candles of "Joys and Concerns" as a family, allows us to reconnect and take the needed step back to pause. There is something peaceful about sitting quietly, staring at the flickering flames of the candles, and being in the company of loved ones, that truly is spiritual.
"Learning how to become emotionally literate is one of the best investments that human beings can make for themselves, their children, and the future."
~ Ayman Sawaf
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what a lovely idea - I completely agree that this is an awakening on many levels for everyone. I love the idea, especially as kids come into the age where joys are hard to find and concerns are paramount. How awesome to be practiced in finding and connecting these feelings to every day life...Nice work, meaningful to all ages.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great idea! I have been amazed at the difference between my son and his other friends when it comes to how they handle situations and conflicts. The time spent with you in his early years, developing his pathways to peace, has really influenced him. I look forward to more of your ideas!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great idea on so many levels. A peaceful time for families to reflect, a time when children know their thoughts and concerns are being heard. A time to sit back from a very hectic world and listen and be together as a family. I am very impressed with the idea.
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